This is an original post written by Hanni. Thank you for listening to her story.
I have two boys, one is three years old and another one is one and a half. They were both quite big babies, both weighing in at almost 4 kg (8.8 pounds). I am quite short (1.62m/5.3 feet) and have a very short upper body, so I carried very large in both my pregnancies, especially with the second one.
People were constantly asking me if I was sure I wasn’t expecting twins. Also, when I was only about 5 months along, people would ask me when I was due – as if I was going in to hospital the next day.
Now, however, a year and a half after my second boy’s birth, I am constantly asked, or people who barely know me (and some who do) inquire as to whether I’m pregnant again. Just the other day, in fact, when I was visiting the zoo with my boys, a lady in front of me started talking to me, and through our conversation she just happened to casually ask:
“When’s your baby due?”
I’m not pregnant at the moment, but wanted to spare her the humiliation, so I answer:
“Oh, I’m not very far along yet.”
On hearing this she replied:
“But you’re so big already!”
I was quite exasperated by this answer, but it didn’t really hit me until my husband and I started making love that night.
Then I started feeling really fat and ugly and sad.
Many others have also recently asked or implied they thought I was pregnant again. I hate this, but know that my tummy does indeed look big enough to think I might be pregnant again. Am struggling to eat the right things as my boys are not sleeping well and I’m constantly tired.
Sweet things are sometimes the only thing that makes me feel like I’m being nice to myself.
Hanni is a mother of 2 very busy boys. She works a couple of mornings a weeks and struggles to keep her weight off after two pregnancies and two big babies (both delivered by C-section). She has no motivation to exercise and she’s eating all the wrong things though she knows she shouldn’t.
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Wow! I could have written that story myself. I know exactly how you’re feeling. I too carried 2 large boys. One was 11 lbs. 12 oz. and one was 11 lbs. 9 oz. and I’m only 5′2. 2 years later I still look pregnant and you would think I would have the motivation to do something about it after being asked “when my little one was due” at least 3 times a week! I hate clothes shopping and just want to stay home in my elastic shorts and comfy t-shirts!
I totally know how you feel. Me and my kids travel to my home town once a year to watch the fourth of july parade and I always see my old friends. Well my friends hadnt seen me in a year and I had been pregnant then, now this year I had two people ask me if I was trying for a boy this time around. Its thrown me for quite a loop considering I thought I was doing pretty good as far as weight loss goes. BTW I have two lil girls one is 22 months and the other 9 months they were both cesarian. I just feel so horrible about the way I look now and I dont know what to do. So I am also feeling fat ugly and sad
OMG, I could have written this, and I only had one girl and she was a month early and not big at all. I looked five months pregnant at five seconds pregnant. A year later and I look about five months along still. The troublesome thing is a back problem limits my cardio abilities, I’m only five pounds from the minimum weight for my age and height, and I eat right! I hate genetics and I don’t want to look pregnant anymore! If only I had a spare $8000 for a tummy tuck (ya right). Thanks for making me feel not alone.